Last year on this date, something terrible "finished" happening in our lives. I'm not going to talk about that today (can't manage it). But it's also my birthday, so this is my present to all of you. Ever heard songs from different genres mashed up together that somehow sound good together? This post is going to explore that idea a little bit...matching things together that should be entangled with each other. It's kind of awesome how well they fit together thematically too! I just wrote about embracing this theme in my life more here. So let's think of this as a great big prayer mash-up for the glory of God in your marriage. And let's give my blog an inaugural dose of that m.atchmaking then, shall we?
For your viewing (and reading and praying) pleasure, I have joined together three online marriage retreats being offered for Christian couples. It would also be a wonderful exercise for engaged couples to participate in, as well as those discerning a vocation to marriage to peruse for prayer ideas! All of these retreats are in celebration of National Marriage Week 2015 on the US side of the pond. Two of them come from the online resource For Your Marriage (retreats found here and here in their entirety). The third retreat was put together by the Diocese of Arlington (found here on its own) and the video portion features Bishop Paul Loverde. This would be a great way to connect better with your spouse (or fiance) any week of the year, not just this week before Valentine's Day, so if you can't devote time to it right now - bookmark this post and come back to it when you can. And instead of giving something up this year for Lent, consider adding this kind of marriage building exercise! It could be a worthy effort for your marriage (or discernment) this year. (more ideas for Lent here)
For your viewing (and reading and praying) pleasure, I have joined together three online marriage retreats being offered for Christian couples. It would also be a wonderful exercise for engaged couples to participate in, as well as those discerning a vocation to marriage to peruse for prayer ideas! All of these retreats are in celebration of National Marriage Week 2015 on the US side of the pond. Two of them come from the online resource For Your Marriage (retreats found here and here in their entirety). The third retreat was put together by the Diocese of Arlington (found here on its own) and the video portion features Bishop Paul Loverde. This would be a great way to connect better with your spouse (or fiance) any week of the year, not just this week before Valentine's Day, so if you can't devote time to it right now - bookmark this post and come back to it when you can. And instead of giving something up this year for Lent, consider adding this kind of marriage building exercise! It could be a worthy effort for your marriage (or discernment) this year. (more ideas for Lent here)
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P.S. (Consider reading the daily marriage tips located here while you are on "retreat" with your spouse and print/cut out these prayer cards to keep with you at work, home, or in your wallet as a reminder of what you are strengthening!)
Day 1
Grace: Today, we ask the Holy Spirit for a deeper awareness of
God’s unfathomable love for each of us.
God’s unfathomable love for each of us.
Scripture Reading: Is. 43.1-5
Prayer Exercises for today’s retreat:
1. What are two concrete ways that the Lord shows His love to you and your spouse?
2. Recall the days when you fell in love with your spouse. What were two or three of the qualities that first attracted you to (him/her)?
3. Remind your spouse of those qualities.
4. Read this reflection and pray this prayer together here.
Day 2
Grace: Today, we ask the Holy Spirit for a deeper awareness of our sins,
especially those that cause the greatest hindrances to our marriage.
especially those that cause the greatest hindrances to our marriage.
Sacred Scripture: Ps. 51 (50): 3-6
Prayer Exercises for today’s retreat:
1. Reflect on any sinful habits, cycles, or traits that get in the way of growing together.
2. Invite the Lord into these areas of your life, as you admit these negative behaviors to one another, asking Him to renew your unconditional love of your spouse.
3. Read this reflection and pray this prayer together here.
4. Read this reflection here or here.
Day 3
Grace: Today, we ask the Holy Spirit for a greater awareness
of God’s burning desire to forgive us, and we pray for the grace
to forgive one another.
of God’s burning desire to forgive us, and we pray for the grace
to forgive one another.
Scripture Readings: Jn. 8:1-11 and Lk. 23:42-43
Prayer Exercises for today’s retreat:
1. Ponder any areas of “unforgiveness” between you and your spouse or others.
2. Purposefully ask and offer forgiveness to your spouse for all the hurts committed.
3. Read this reflection and pray this prayer together here.
4. Read this reflection here or here.
Day 4
Grace: Today, we ask the Holy Spirit to
help us to prize the things of God over material goods.
help us to prize the things of God over material goods.
Scripture Reading: Mk 8:34-37 and Mt 6.21
Prayer Exercises for today’s retreat:
1. Make a list of your priorities.
2. Pray with your list. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you determine how to proceed.
3. Read this reflection and pray this prayer together here.
4. Read this reflection here or here.
Day 5
Grace: Today, we ask the Holy Spirit
to release from any fears that keep us from fulfilling God’s plan for our marriage.
Scripture Reading: Jer. 29:11 and Mt 28:20b
Prayer Exercises for today’s retreat:
1. As you are reminded that the Father has a plan for you, ask Jesus to shed light on fears you have which keep you from fully following the Father’s plans for you and your marriage.
2. As you recall each of your fears, pray with the simple words, “Jesus I trust in you”.
3. Remember this prayer and repeat it any time you are beset with anxieties and worries throughout the day.
4. Read this reflection and pray this prayer together here.
Day 6
Grace: Today, we ask the Holy Spirit for the grace to make prayer as a couple paramount in our lives.
Scripture Reading: Tobit 8:4-8
Prayer Exercises for today’s retreat:
1. Praise and thank God, using scripture and/or your own words. Ask Him for everything you need to live a life centered on Him.
2. Considering that prayer entails commitment, establish a schedule for your prayer as a couple, and choose a method of prayer you each find fruitful (i.e. plan to read scripture together as you have done this week; meditate and discuss your reflections; choose a favorite spiritual book (or even just a chapter) and discuss with your spouse; pray the rosary etc.)
3. Read this reflection and pray this prayer together here.
4. Read this reflection here and here.
Day 7
Grace: Today, we ask the Holy Spirit for the grace to love one another more fully.
Scripture Reading: 1 Cor 13.4-7 (8a)
Prayer Exercises for today’s retreat:
1. Reflect on each of the virtues mentioned in today’s readings.
2. Tell your spouse how he/she exemplifies one or more of these virtues.
3. Choose a virtue that you wish to grow in and begin to practice that virtue more intentionally. Encourage and assist your spouse in his/her efforts to grow in holiness.
4. Read this reflection and pray this prayer together here.
5. Read this reflection here and here.
What a beautiful resource! Thank you for this! Hope you have/had a wonderful birthday and a blessed year ahead!
ReplyDeleteThanks for the sweet words and the lovely birthday wishes, Tomato! So glad you liked this one. :)
DeleteHow wonderful to include all the retreats in one spot :) I hope you and DH have been blessed by doing retreat(s) lately!
ReplyDeleteI *really* secretly wanted to know what you specifically thought about this one. Thanks Ecce! We're actually going to be spending Lent doing all of these spread out to Easter and we're both looking forward to it more than we ever looked forward to giving up chocolate! :P
DeleteStopping by from the BIS linkup--thank you so much for sharing this. I'm downright excited to show this to my husband and make some time for our marriage. Many many birthday prayers and blessings, and prayers for your heart in this season, too. We also have little ones interceding for us--may yours do so in a special way in these days and fill your heart with love and gentleness and peace.
ReplyDeleteMCH, your comment put a giant smile on my face! Thank you so much for the very heartfelt and kind words.... and for linking through from BIS. I hope your husband and you enjoy this together! We'll keep you and your Heavenly little ones in our prayers. :)
DeleteI love these suggestions and the prayer exercises! My hubs and I struggle with praying together too so I'm excited to do this virtual retreat! Thanks!!
ReplyDeleteJamie
Thanks, Jamie. We just uploaded the last video to complete the series. We'd love to hear how it goes for you guys! :)
DeleteAwesome links -- THANK YOU!!!
ReplyDeleteYou're very welcome! Hope it's helpful. :)
DeleteThank you for putting this all in one place. All very great resources
ReplyDeleteWe actually (surprisingly) received a thank you from some diocesan offices for putting these all together. Really appreciate the kind words, Lucky. Hope it's helpful information! <3
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